However, “How To Prepare For Anal Sex” was constrained on time, so I couldn’t go over in detail every step of the enema process. For example, where do you get an enema bottle? Is a douching bottle the same thing? What about these shower nozzle enemas you’ve heard about? Since I couldn’t go over all of this stuff in the video, I wanted to write a quick article to help fill in some of those gaps.

Before You Begin

The most important thing one needs to remember when dealing with enemas is that the inside of your ass (specifically the anal canal and the beginning of the rectum) is covered in very sensitive tissue. Your colon is designed exclusively to transport fecal matter out of the body, so the tissue wall is not planning on dealing with many foreign substances going “in through the out door”. That’s why you need to be extra careful with the materials and chemicals that you introduce into your ass, because the sensitive inner tissue is easily inflamed…and no one wants an inflamed colon.

What To Clean With

As a general rule, the only things that should be going into your butt are things that are clean, non-porous, and do not introduce a heavy amount of foreign bacteria or compounds into your body. That’s why in the video I make such a point about using distilled water for your ass cleaning needs, NOT tap water or even bottled water. The reason for that is because most water we drink has added chemicals and minerals (yes, even bottled and boiled water) and your butt doesn’t need any of them. Sure, you’re not going to die from using tap water for your enema but you could possibly get sick…and no one likes getting sick. Distilled water is devoid of any chemicals or additives; it is only H2O in its pure form. This is the water scientists use when conducting experiments because it doesn’t introduce any weird chemicals or bacteria into their experiment which could skew their results. I know it may seem like there’s no big difference between distilled water and any other water, but there is! Be sure and only use distilled water for your enema needs…your body will thank you. Distilled water is easy to get at your local drugstore, or you can simply order it online.

Disposable Enema Bottles

When you buy an enema bottle you have two choices: disposable bottles that come pre-filled with liquid and re-usable bottles that come empty. The disposable pre-filled variety are primarily marketed as relief for constipation, so the liquid inside is designed specifically for that purpose. The problem is that using those chemicals on a regular basis can be bad for you for the same reasons that using tap water for enemas is bad for you. Unless you are actually constipated, you should not use the liquid that comes pre-filled in a disposable enema bottle. What you do, as I explained in “How To Prepare For Anal Sex”, is dump the pre-filled liquid out and then refill the bottle with distilled water. Then you’re good to clean your ass with it. When you’ve used that bottle you should then throw it away. You don’t want to re-use disposable bottles because they are hard to clean properly, so the more you re-use them the more risk you put on yourself of getting some sort of infection.

The benefit of using disposable bottles is that you don’t have to go through the hassle of cleaning and maintaining them. You simply dump out the contents, fill them with distilled water, inject, and dispose. However, it’s more expensive to buy bottles over and over again than it is to buy once and re-use, and it’s also bad for the environment as you’re creating more landfill waste. Disposable enemas are available at pretty much every supermarket or drugstore, and you can even order them from Amazon.com to avoid the potential embarrassment of buying them in person.

As I researched getting a vasectomy I couldn’t find a good primer for what to do before, what it’s like during, and what the recovery process is like afterward. I went ahead and got the operation anyway, only feeling about 75% sure of what the whole shindig would be like. Since I just went through it all I figured I’d now write the primer I would have wanted myself and hope that other people find my experience useful.

BEFORE

The first thing you need to understand is that getting a vasectomy is an elective procedure, i.e. there’s not very many situations where you would need to get one. Insurance companies usually aren’t too keen on covering elective procedures, but two factors come into play that make getting a fully-covered vasectomy easy: long-term saving and the advancement of reproductive rights. The latter refers to the fact that the ongoing fight for reproductive rights for women has a side-effect of getting more reproductive rights for men as well. In my state, reproductive rights for both sexes are really great, so I have that advantage. The former factor, long-term saving, is the primary interest of the insurance companies, though. Paying once to sterilize me is a hell of a lot cheaper for them than covering the thousands and thousands of dollars it costs to have a child and keep that child healthy. Thus, it’s in their best interest to make it as easy and cheap as possible for me to get a vasectomy. Because of these two factors, my insurance covered my entire operation 100%…I didn’t even have to pay a co-pay!

If you’re interested in getting a vasectomy, call your insurance provider and find out what the requirements are to get it fully covered. For me, I had to go to an in-network doctor who would perform the operation in their office rather than in a hospital or clinic. I found a good doctor in my area really quickly who fit those qualifications and set up an appointment. I went in and he ran through the basic warnings that you would expect: this will prevent you from being able to have children, it is essentially irreversible, you will be unable to be sexual for a week after the operation, there’s no guarantee that the operation will make you 100% sterile, etc. You can find this info really easily online. After I assured him that this is what I wanted he got me onto a table and felt around my genitals to make sure that I would be able to get the operation. He felt around on each testicle to find the vas deferens attached to each one. Once he did that I was good to go, and I made an appointment to get the operation.

DURING

On the day of the operation they suggest you wear underwear that gives your balls a lot of support, i.e. briefs, not boxers. They also suggest you wear comfortable and loose-fitting clothes so that you don’t have to stretch or bend too much to get dressed and undressed. When you enter the operating room they ask you to empty your bladder in the bathroom so that you don’t have to go during the operation. I’m sure each facility will be different, but my operating room was essentially a room a bit larger than the one you usually end up sitting in when you visit a physician, and it had the same stuff in it: a counter, a raised bed, a sink, some chairs, and that’s it. You really don’t need much to perform this operation.

Once the doctor arrived he had me undress and get on the table and lay flat. He cleaned my genitals with some sort of anti-bacterial soap and then draped medical towels over me so that only my testicles were visible to him. The first step is to numb the area where the cuts will be made which is done by injecting an anesthetic directly into the scrotal sac. This sounds like it would be terribly painful, but it really wasn’t that big of a deal. It was no more than a slight pinch and then boom, I couldn’t feel anything. The doctor then cuts open your scrotal sac to get access to the vas deferens on that side. Once again: sounds painful, but the anesthetic prevented me from feeling anything at all. The doctor exposes the vas deferens, cuts it, and then burns it using a special tool that cauterizes it, preventing it from healing properly. Then he staples each side using medical titanium staples which will stay in you when the operation is over (these staples do not set off metal detectors and do not prevent you from being able to get an MRI). Then he sews you back up using thread that will eventually disintegrate on its own and covers the whole wound with some medical glue. Then he moves to the other testicle and repeats the whole process.

What’s essentially happening is he’s cutting the tube that sperm travel along to be mixed with semen when you ejaculate. Then he’s burning the ends of the tube and then stapling them shut to prevent the tube from healing properly. Once you’re all healed up you’ll be ejaculating semen with no sperm in it because the sperm have no way of getting mixed. Your body still creates the sperm but they just lay dormant, die, and then are absorbed by the body. It’s like you’re permanently stepping on one of your body’s garden hoses.

After he did the other side he cleaned me up with some more anti-bacterial soap and that was it. The whole thing took about 45 minutes. He gave me a prescription for some antibiotics (to prevent infection) and some pain-killers and I was out the door. There was some slight discomfort walking from the office back to the car but really, considering I just had my balls cut open I was feeling great.

AFTER

I was instructed not to ejaculate, have sex, or engage in any serious physical activity for one full week. After 8 weeks I’m supposed to ejaculate into a cup provided for me by the doctor and bring it back to the office for testing. If the semen sample shows no sperm then I’m good to go…officially sterile! If sperm are present then that will mean another operation…but my doc assured me that in his decade-plus career he’s never had that happen before.

When I got home I was still feeling good, but after about an hour the anesthetic wore off and the soreness kicked in. “Kicked” is a good word to use because it felt like someone had kicked me in the balls and I was recovering from the effect for several hours. The pain-killers helped but there definitely was no way I was doing anything but laying in bed for the rest of the day.

It took about 48 hours for me to feel totally fine. I took a shower for the first time and was surprised that the glue stuff stayed strong. I’m guessing that the glue flakes off bit by bit over time until it’s totally gone, and by then your wounds are healed up enough to be on their own. I’m not supposed to have sex for a week, but even if I tried to I’m sure whoever looked at my testicles would not want to have sex with me…they look pretty gnarly. I’m sure that they will look fine as soon as everything is all healed up, though.

All in all, the operation was really easy and relatively benign. The worst part about it was being stuck in bed for two days, but hey…sometimes some bed time is just what you need. Basically, if you’re nervous about getting a vasectomy because of money, time, or the level of pain, don’t worry at all. It was no big deal!

But throughout all of that, there’s always seafood. Goddamn, if there’s one thing we do right in New England, it’s seafood, especially fried stuff. There’s a place not too far from us that makes really great fried seafood that is surprisingly cheap considering it’s in Connecticut. Eloise and I went there and got so much fried seafood that we didn’t even know how 4 of us could eat it all, let alone just the two of us that actually exist. But it was still delicious.

We also got a Slurpee and Eloise got this cool straw that makes her look like a cute little fox:

Obviously, Eloise is always a fox, because she’s a foxy lady, but with the straw she actually looks more literally like a fox.

The seafood we ate was from the sea and went into our mouths, but we also did some ass to mouth as well. Ass to mouth is where a penis fucks a butt and then the penis gets taken out of the butt and goes directly from the butt into a girl’s mouth. Sometimes the butt and the mouth are not attached to the same girl, and sometimes you can substitute a sex toy for a penis, but the general idea is the same: things going directly from ass to mouth. Eloise is a big fan of ass to mouth (you can read all about how much she likes it here) and I’m a big fan of it too, so we did it the other day and it was awesome. Eloise really needs some ass to mouth action because she is super stressed getting her first set for GodsGirls ready to publish. It involves cupcakes! And you all know how much we love cupcakes.

I’ve got to take off now and go fuck Bella’s asshole, mouth, and pussy. Not in that order though. Or maybe it will be, I don’t know, I figure shit out as I go along.

I don’t want you to think that’s how the conversation goes with all men but it certainly goes that way with most of them. They are so pumped on it until they find out that if they were to try it they would have to support their girlfriends having sex with other men, and how could they ever do that? Their jealousy is way too potent of a force to enable them to be OK with their girlfriend having outside sexual experiences much less actually be happy about it. That concept, the idea of supporting your partner(s) in their other relationships within a non-monogamous structure, is called “compersion”. What is compersion? Here’s the definition:

Compersion: an empathetic state of happiness and joy experienced when another individual experiences happiness and joy

You can have compersion for your children, for your friends, for your family, for your co-workers, for anyone, really. Anytime you are genuinely happy and supportive of someone else being happy and successful, even when you have zero or possibly even negative benefit from that happiness, you are showing them compersion. However, the interesting thing about the word compersion is where it came from: it was completely invented by the polyamorous community. Even now as I’m typing this out in Microsoft Word there is a red squiggly line underneath compersion everytime I write it telling me that it’s a word spell-check doesn’t recognize. Isn’t that interesting? Until the polyamorous community came along there was no simple word to describe the idea of being happy for other people when they are happy. There’s a word for the opposite of that, though: jealousy. Compersion is the opposite of jealousy.

The story goes that a polyamorous commune in San Francisco during the 70’s was one of the first large groups of people to embrace the concept of polyfidelity and start actually examining it as a realistic way of doing things. They broke a lot of new ground for non-monogamy and coined a lot of different terms, and the word “compersion” was one of them (“compersive” is the verb tense, i.e. “Please be compersive towards my life”). I find it to be completely fascinating that it’s been less than 50 years since a word was created in the English language for the opposite of jealousy, a word that’s been around for thousands of years. It’s just further proof that humanity is much more concerned with being jealous of everything around them than being compersive.

I don’t find it hard at all to be compersive towards my partners in regards to their outside relationships. I want to see them be happy and if having sex with someone else is going to make them happy in any way, then I support that. Even if I was jealous of them in some way or felt threatened by their outside sexual experiences I would simply look in the mirror and stop myself from feeling that way because being compersive towards them is the right thing to do. Non-monogamy may not be your thing but I think we can all agree that the support of the people we love doing the things that make them happy is fundamentally the right thing for all of us to do all the time, even when it comes to things that don’t make us comfortable.

But I’m not trying to belittle the difficulty compersion presents. Jealousy is a learned trait, one that is taught from a very early age in many different ways all around us, and unlearning is not easy. There’s no doubt that it’s something you have to do a degree of work to achieve, but why in the world wouldn’t you want to make it happen? After all, how close can you really be with your partners/friends/family members/etc. if you can’t be genuinely happy for them when they achieve happiness?

Take this simple example: a girl gets upset when her boyfriend goes out with his friends for “guys’ nite”. It happens once every two weeks and he’s out super late and comes home tired and kind of drunk and passes out on the couch. He doesn’t have a drinking problem, he is attentive to her needs at all other times, there’s always a designated driver, and he never strays from the relationship in any way while he’s out. He just likes going out and getting rowdy with his boys once in a while. If she lets it be known loud and clear that this small thing that makes him very happy makes her upset and she doesn’t support it at all, how close and secure can either of them really feel with eachother? He’ll feel like she doesn’t understand or support his desires and she’ll feel that he doesn’t understand her emotional needs. But if she was not only OK with guys’ nite but actually encouraged him to go out with his friends once every two weeks, possibly even going above and beyond by setting up the couch with a blanket for him and bringing him black coffee in the morning after without a hint of animosity, imagine how that would make him feel. Imagine how loved and supported and understood he would know he is. Imagine how good it would feel for the girlfriend to know how happy he is and how by simply supporting him she is a part of that happiness. And imagine how inclined he is going to be to support her in something that he might not otherwise, such as a girls’ nite or a bachelorette party or an expensive beauty routine or a vacation by herself or whatever. Compersion, even outside the non-monogamous structure, is the key to closeness with your partner.

Successful non-monogamous partners are not “OK” about the relationship structure. They don’t “tolerate” it. They love it. They support it wholeheartedly and want to do whatever they can (within limits, obviously) to make sure their partner gets what they want with the knowledge that they are going to do the same for them. It’s just that instead of “guys’ nite” it’s “have sex with another person”. That’s all it is, it’s that simple.

I’ve written before about how polyamorous people tend to be elitists and think that their particular “brand” of poly is superior to other brands of poly, or, even worse, think that if you don’t ascribe to their version of poly then you’re not even poly at all. Read that article here. Recently an article has been spreading around the ‘net that is, at its core, a prime representation of this elitism and it pisses me off. It’s called “The Problem With Polynormativity” and you can read it in full here (warning: it’s fucking long).

Not everything in the article pisses me off. In fact a lot of the article is cool. Well, the tone of the whole article pisses me off for the elitist reasons I’ve already stated, but the writer does make some great points about the perception of polyamory and how mass media is trying to “normalize” it for the “normals” out there who won’t be able to grip what’s going on in a sound byte. So yeah, there’s some good stuff there. But there’s a lot of bad stuff too.

Whether you read the whole article or not, let me pick two choice statements and give you my take on them:

“Primary” implies top-level importance. “Secondary” implies less importance. Within this model, it’s completely normal to put one person’s feelings ahead of another’s as a matter of course. Let me say this again. It’s completely normal, even expected, that one person’s feelings, desires and opinions will matter more than another’s. It is normal for one person to be flown in first class and the other in economy as a matter of course, based on their respective status alone. And we think this is progressive?

The author is trying to say that in order to be the true poly person, the true forward-thinking progressive “let’s change the concept of relationships for the better” person, you cannot create a hierarchy within your relationships. Using the terms “primary” and “secondary” denotes a sense that certain people are more important than others and that’s bad. Well, fuck me, I guess I’m the worst person in the world because I think there are a lot of people out there who are more important to me than others. That’s just how life works. My dad is way more important to me than my boss, Eloise is way more important to me than my other girlfriends, my non-existent children would be way more important to me than someone else’s children. And on and on. If you don’t like hierarchies in your life then stop living, because you are being ranked and you are doing the ranking all day, every day. To ignore that is to be ignorant of your own self.

I appreciate that everyone needs to be respected in the relationships. I understand that and do my best every day to give everyone of my girlfriends as much respect as I possibly can and work with them to make sure that we’re all as happy as we can be with what we have. But when it comes right down to it treating everyone as complete equals is not the way it’s usually going to pan out. Yes, there are plenty of people out there in triads or quads or even bigger numbers that all treat eachother as primaries, but that’s just one way of being poly. You can’t, repeat CAN’T, demand that people live their poly lives a certain way because it’s “right” and what they’re doing is “wrong”. It’s all right if it works for them and if everyone is in on what’s going on and consents to it. How does one achieve that? Well that brings me to the next point:

The more rules you put into place, the more you are indicating that you don’t trust the person subject to those rules to operate in a considerate fashion with your shared values at heart. Or, on the reverse, you are indicating that you need to be under strict supervision, failing which you will shit all over your partner’s well-being. If you have to legislate something, it’s because you don’t expect it to happen sans legislation. This is a sad state of affairs in what are ostensibly supposed to be loving, possibly long-term relationships.

A term that floats around a bit is “anarchist polyamory”, which is what this author no doubt ascribes to. The idea is that there literally are no rules: all people in the relationship(s) do whatever they want and everyone needs to support everyone in what they do. This is a wonderful thought, just as wonderful as day-to-day anarchy in real life, but the problem is that it is patently ridiculous to think that it could ever work. There is just no possible way that I could live my life the way I want to live it and think that my living does not at all affect my partners, nor could I expect that my partners’ lives wouldn’t affect mine. The author later goes on to say that telling your partners what you want/don’t want is one thing, but making it a rule is another, and that she’s not just talking semantics. But the thing is that that’s what she is doing. I could tell my partner “I don’t want to date people who do drugs” or tell them “The rule is that you can’t do drugs while we’re together” and it means the goddamn same thing: the rule is, no drugs. You can dress it up however you like but every relationship, poly or not, needs rules and structure that are committed to by all people involved. Yes, if there are too many rules that’s stupid but rules need to be there to some degree, and if the rules get broken then relationships begin to deteriorate. And that’s another thing: isn’t it way easier to lay out rules up front for people to avoid problems coming up later on? Isn’t it easier to say “I don’t date people who do drugs” at the beginning instead of dating for a few months and then catching them doing drugs and then getting into a big fight about it? How were they to know that doing drugs was against the rules if you don’t lay it down?!

Relationships are like children: they don’t raise themselves. You have to have rules, structure, limits, assistance, support, etc., if you want your child to grow up well-adjusted and able to handle the world around them. You have to make them feel important and you inevitably will let them know that you care more about them than you do about any other person in the world, most likely including yourself. To try and raise your children, or run your relationships, without these ideals is just asking for failure.

This type of attitude is majorly seen in Sagittarius. Sagittarius is fun to be with and likes to fully express the freedom to live their life. But when they experience a setback in their love life, they tend to be careful of falling in love again.

Therefore, it may be a tough decision for them to embrace love again. There may be numerous reasons behind this, but it may majorly be because of too much excitement in a relationship or their curiosity to know the right choice for them. Below, we will discuss some attributes that Sagittarius guys exhibit.

Attributes of a Sagittarius

Before you fall in love with a Sagittarius, you need to know their attributes. These attributes will help you to live a successful love life with them. It will also guide you so that you don’t make mistakes that can cause permanent damage.

1. They don’t joke with their freedom

If you are the type that dominates your partner’s time, to fall in love with a Sagittarius may be dangerous for you. This is because Sagittarius loves to have control over how they spend their time. They value their freedom, so if you fall in love with a Sagittarius, you must always bear in mind that you may not have what you want.

2. They can be inflexible in their decisions

Sagittarius guys are generally strict, and once they make up their minds on a decision, it might be hard for anyone to change their minds about it. When they are upset, they can be unwilling to listen to your pleas to show you how mad they are. So, if you want to start a relationship with a Sagittarius, you must be ready to accommodate that also.

3. They are always motivated to excel

A Sagittarius man always aims to do well in whatever they do. They are result-oriented and are always focused on achieving great results. You must be ready to help his cause, or your relationship with him might encounter some problems.

4. Sex is vital

A Sagittarius takes sex as one of the crucial factors that determine intimacy in a relationship. To them, sex is the utmost pleasure they can have with their partner, and it also makes them feel complete all round. As a result of that, they’d love to be happy with you in bed.

5. They are straightforward

The majority of what they say is nothing but the fact. They express their feelings directly, and they are sincere about it. They can say something so mean to you, but they will never insult you. You must be able to adapt to this to live successfully with them.

6. They get upset easily

Before you fall in love with a Sagittarius, you need to be observant of their feelings. This is because they get hurt easily, and you might not know because they won’t mention it. But if you’re attentive to their actions, you will know, and then you can quickly make amendments.

They don’t keep grudges, but won’t open up to you either. Be prepared to handle situations like this so that you don’t continue to upset them the more.

7. They prefer to struggle less

Instead of struggling, they prefer to allow things to happen at their leisure. It might even be hard to motivate them due to their strictness. And also, because they don’t like to be controlled, it might be hard to force them to struggle. Even when you advise them on a thing, they might be unwilling to change their decision. So, if you plan to get a Sagittarius partner, you must be ready to cope with that.

8. They don’t get obsessed so quick

Because they so much like their freedom, they wouldn’t want to get entangled in a situation that can affect their independence. Therefore, it is difficult for them to fall in love easily. At times they also enjoy being the center of attraction.

How to Fascinate a Sagittarius Man

There are many ways you can win over a Sagittarius man’s heart. But we will list a few ways you can follow to make a man long after you.

1. Avoid anything that will make him feel jealous

Jealousy is one of those things that don’t go well with a Sagittarius man. In a bid to make him long for you, do not try to make him feel jealous. Making him feel jealous will only make him hate you the more. Whatever you do, always make sure it won’t cause envy in him, else, he might end the relationship rather than longing for you.

2. You need to know him fully well

If you want a successful relationship with a Sagittarius man, you need to study him quite well. You need to understand when he needs his privacy, and when he wants to have fun. A Sagittarius man doesn’t like to be underappreciated or misunderstood by his partner.

So you need to take time to study him and love him as he is. Be pleased and lively with him, let him be your closest friend and avoid being sad and unstable. Give him what he wants just when he wants it.

3. Be ready to embrace change

Sagittarius guys are always dynamic and continuously searching for more knowledge to widen their prospects. If you want him to always long for you, you must be a part of this dynamism. You must be able to pop up crazy ideas that will Interest him, make some decisions that will fascinate him. Of course, it doesn’t have to be elaborate, but it has to be one-off.

Final words

Indeed, a Sagittarius man may seem complicated in his behaviors. He wants you to adapt to his ways. Also, don’t forget that you are also who you are. Do not start pretending to suit him; instead, be true to yourself while you make yourself attractive.

Signs That Show That She’s Interested in You

1. The way she looks at you

A sure way you can know if an older woman likes you is by the way she stares at you. If she keeps looking at you on every occasion, then you may be of interest to her. Once you observe her starring at you, then you should know that she is interested in you.

2. She will devote more time to be with you

Older women don’t have many friends. It can take some time before you see older women hang out with new friends. So, if she prefers to be with you always and feels so comfortable and calm whenever she’s with you, then she might be telling you that she’s interested in you.

3. She tells you a lot about herself

Most of her discussion with you will be about her. She will be eager to tell you about how she spent her day and tell you about a man who drove her home. All these tales are just a way of telling you that she is adorable and that she wants a relationship with you.

4. The way she caresses you

You can easily detect if an older lady is into you by the way she caresses you. If she is so quick to hug or cuddle you, then you can be sure enough that she likes you. So, be observant of how she touches you because sometimes, she might not even do so intentionally. But this is a sign that if you proposed to her, she would jump at the opportunity.

5. She initiates discussions

Most of the time, she will engage you in deep conversations that will interest you. She won’t just start such conversations; she will also make sure you contribute to the conversation. And then she pays sincere attention to whatever you say in the discussion.

She will also interrogate you about your private life and the things you love. She’ll always ask you lots of questions whenever she’s with you. She will ask you so that she can know more about you. This is a clear sign that she’s interested in you. If you observe these signs in her, be rest assured that she wants a relationship with you.

6. She wants to know about your current relationship

A hint about how to know if she’s interested in you is if she asks you questions about your relationship. If she asks you about your partner and tries to understand more about your relationship, she might not necessarily care about your partner; instead, she might be telling you that she’s interested in you.

Another hint is when she tells you about her personal life. If she then tells you she’s single, even if you haven’t asked her, it is a big signal that she wants to have a relationship with you. Come to think of it; she doesn’t have to disclose much about her personal life, not to talk of telling you if she’s single or not. So, if she does, then she wants you no doubt.

7. She always tries to get your attention

If an older woman is interested in you, she will always find every means to be where you are. She will want to be around you so that you can notice her, and she can easily have some discussions with you. She won’t just show up wherever you are, and she will also do things that will interest you so that she can gain your attention.

A typical example is when she shows up at a party that she quite knows well that you will attend the same party, and then tries to do things that will make you hang around her. When you notice such behavior, she’s not too worrisome; she only wants you to know that she likes you.

8. She will always commend and support you

If she always compliments you now and then, try to read her body language and understand what she has in mind. She might be telling you she’s interested in you. Also, she will always show interest and support in whatever you do. She will always encourage you and stand by your side.

9. She will love to tell you about her past

Generally, it is not so comfortable for women to discuss their past life with you, except that they are interested in you. She wouldn’t turn down any slight opportunity she has to tell you about her past life. She will comfortably discuss with you what she wouldn’t discuss with any man. When you notice all that, then you have just been informed that she wants a relationship with you.

10. She’ll want to share things with you

Whenever she goes shopping, she will shop for you also. She will always want to share things with you. If she buys cloth, she will buy the same type for you. If she cooks, she will always cook yours too. After all, she’s not a kid; she knows that food is way to most men’s hearts. She will share snacks and drinks with you just because she wants a relationship with you.

11. She makes naughty jokes with you

You can’t just make dirty jokes with a random person. So, if she makes dirty jokes with you, this is not only telling you she likes you, but she’s also telling you she will want to have fun with you on the bed. But in all, she can only crack such jokes when she’s interested in you.

The above are just a few ways to know when an older woman has an interest in you. You only need to be attentive to how she behaves when you are around her and how she treats you.

How to Make Her Fall for You?

Before you can make an older woman develop feelings for you, there are some specific moves you must make. You need to know these things and bear them in mind. These procedures work like magic because I have examined and practiced them. So, if you will like to know every detail about how you can make her fall for you, read below.

• You must be a friendly and funny type of guy. This is because she’s older than you, and she has probably passed through a lot that you are not aware of, and so she might not be easily incited. So, you must be able to brighten her mood somehow and make her happy.
• Also, offer some assistance whenever she needs help. Prove to her that you’ll always be there for her, not just by words alone but also in action.
• Try always to be intimate with her and be sincere in whatever you tell her – whether in your discussions or she asks you. This is because she might not be happy with you when she discovers that what you have told her isn’t true.
• Do not bring up issues about your relationship with any other girl, whether present or past. Except she asks you.
• Know what she loves and what she hates. Do what will impress her, buy her favorite gifts for her. Avoid doing what she hates and agree with her on what she says.
• Behave well and be matured in your dealings with her. Avoid doing things that will look childish to her.
• One more thing you need to be careful about is that you should not demean yourself because she’s older. Do not take yourself for granted.

How You Can Avoid Her

If she develops some feelings for you and she has been showing some of the above signs. But you are not interested in her, and you want to avoid her. Then the guidelines below will help you, and her interest in you will fade away with time.

• Avoid being around her. If she insists on being around where you are, be ready to leave the place.
• Talk more about your relationship with other women
• Once you know what she hates, do it every now and then
• Whenever you are in discussion with her, do not show interest in whatever she says. If she makes advances to touch or hug you, do not be moved.
• If you are currently engaged, invite your girlfriend over from time to time.

Conclusion

With all these written, the best way to avoid someone is to maintain distance from the person.  I believe that you can now make an older woman fall for you and avoid her when need be.